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It may come as no surprise to you, my dear reader, that I need therapy.

I’m the type of person that needs to talk things through— over and over again. I hold onto regrets of the past and mull over them, in an unhealthy way. Regrets get stuck in my thoughts all day and all night, and in my worst days I sleep over them as a form of escape. Sometimes I feel like I could use some help in untangling these chaotic thoughts.

That’s when I saw an ad for Betterhelp in Facebook. How much does Betterhelp cost? For £40-£70 a session for 4 sessions (depending on your location, preference and therapist availability.), I thought it wasn’t so bad. It’s cheaper than many in-person therapy for sure. (With this Betterhelp referral code you get your first week free). Anyhow, everything is done online these days anyway. I felt I should at least give it a shot.

So how does it work?

Well first, they give you a series of personal online questions to see just how bad in a shape you are and also pair you up with the right therapist. After a few days, they matched me with Trendolyn Davis from Dallas, Texas.

The first thing that came to mind is why I was paired up with a therapist from America when I was in the UK, this irritated me a bit. Trendolyn explained to me that Betterhelp is probably lacking UK therapist. They also weren’t able to accomodate my preferred language which was Tagalog. In any case, I thought it was fine, just thought I’d make a note of it.

In any case, onto the positive parts! The app is actually quite functional and inuitive, it’s quite easy to use and not clunky. It’s very easy to chat a message to your psychiatrist and also schedule your appointments. I guess one problem with the messages is the time difference as they will probably message back where they’re awake. In any case, the main selling point of the app is the talking time anyway, which happens 4 times in a month. Make sure not to miss your session though because I think there’s a penalty if you do.

The Actualy Therapy Session

When it comes to the actual therapy session, I guess it would depend from therapist to therapist, but I would trust that Betterhelp properly vets their therapists anyway. In any case, I am glad to have a good therapist in Trendolyn. I feel she understood me and tried to get to the root of my problems. To be honest, the advice I got were stuff I already kind of knew myself (I do have a psychology degree) but I just needed to hear from someone, repeatedly. The thing with therapy is that I have someone to listen to my problems over and over again and not get tired of giving me advice. The best advice I got from her with regards to overcoming my OCD came in a typed message:

“They are just thoughts — just look at them and let them flow by — don’t catch them. Act as if it is a poem and the thoughts only have to be written down but not kept. Imagine a stream of thoughts flowing by — they are your thoughts — let them flow and not let the fishing pole catch them… This is part of (your) OCD disorder.” — Trendolyn Davis MA, LPC 

As you can imagine, I talk about my OCD a lot, and I like the advice of not being stuck on just any one thought and letting things flow. To relax, calm down, breathe and let things go.

Everybody Needs a Therapist

If people can afford it, I think it’s good if everyone had a therapist. It’s like having an accountability buddy that you can count on to help you set your goals and better yourself. You will be able to objectively see yourself from an outsider’s perspective, and correct yourself when needed.

All in all, I’m glad I got therapy from Betterhelp. It’s easy, convenient, and it gives me a reset each week as I knock myself back into what I should be doing. But don’t take my word for it, try Betterhelp yourself and see if it can be just the help you need.